“Everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud”
It’s true. Especially right now.
With the state the internet is currently in, it’s never been easier to put your best foot forward.
Meanwhile your back foot lingers in mid air longer and longer, as if it’s moving in slow motion.
It’s only natural to take a look around at your fellow human to see how you measure up (cue urinal joke).
The difference is instead of looking across the street at your neighbors to make sure your car is still nicer than theirs, you’re exposed to hundreds of thousands, if not millions of other people, all uploading their highlight reels on a daily basis.
The culture is ‘hustle’, and the objective is ‘I’m getting mine’. If I for some reason don’t get mine, at least not to the same degree as so-and-so is getting his, then I lost. I fell short.
Full disclosure time.
I work primarily as a fitness coach and writer (while only the former currently pays, I have so much love for the latter).
My social media feed is made up of hundreds of other fitness coaches and writers.
Every day, one or two of them will display an article they had featured in a major online blog. The rest will not so discreetly hint at how wildly busy their coaching program is.
Intellectually, I know this is great. As the tide rises, all the ships rise with it. In such a new and obscure industry as online fitness and coaching, this is all great news.
Despite that, I still catch myself making comparisons. Things like “That should be me” will run through my mind.
I’m not immune to this. In fact, I’ve accomplished many things while carrying a big, nasty chip on my shoulder. Usually it’s a chip constructed out of imaginary scenarios.
I’ve recently gotten a pretty firm grasp on these thoughts and feelings. While these thoughts still bubble to the surface of my mind from time to time, keeping up with the Jones’s is becoming much less important in my life.
This has nothing to do with me being smarter than anyone else, but more to do with my ferocious need to reflect.
While most are practicing 24/7 hustle, I take about 1/3 of that time to reflect. I go to the park, I lock myself away, I walk, I meditate. Through this I figure shit out.
Why am I sharing this? Because I know keeping up with the Jones’s is part of everyone’s life.
I know that comparing your life to other people’s imaginary dream life is exhausting and crushing.
I know that when someone seemingly has a life that you don’t, your instinct is to defend yourself.
Thoughts like, ‘they could never stay in such great shape if they were raising 3 kids’, and ‘must be nice to have your parents pay for your education’ cross your mind.
When you do this….when I do this…we aren’t actually defending our position. We’re fighting our own evolution as a human being.
Our body and our mind have a constant need to evolve. We aren’t meant to be stagnant, but we stay stagnant for long periods of time.
You may feel like that’s impossible. You work hard all day, put food on the table and keep the lights on. You raise your kids, you keep up the yard and the house, and you prepare your meals. Not a minute goes by when you are stagnant.
99% of everything we do everyday is bullshit.
This stuff isn’t pushing you to evolve. This is a collection of mindless distractions. This is a silly game we as people created and now we lose ourselves in it.
Most of what you do on a daily basis is simply distracting you from the fact that your body and mind are screaming for growth and progress.
Evolve as a human? OK, but can it wait until I dust these lamps?
When you look at someone else’s accomplishments and you feel that feeling of inadequacy, this isn’t the time to defend why you don’t have the same accomplishments.
This is a call to action. This is your own mind screaming at you. The message is straight forward. We’re stagnant, and we need to either grow or die.
Listen, earning a living, putting food on the table, and keeping the lights on are all important. Don’t stop doing these things.
But make time for your own personal evolution. Your own personal growth and evolution are more important than any game of ‘How Big Can I Get My Pile of Useless Stuff.’
While accumulating wealth is perfectly fine, great even, if you ignore your minds desire for growth, then it’s just going to keep on screaming at you. No pile of stuff will ever be enough to shut it up.
So carve out time to read, strength train, condition your body and mind, and meditate, or do yoga.
You don’t need me to tell you what to do. This is your evolution. You know it already.
As Joe Rogan says, “Be the hero of your own story.”
Enough with the silly distractions.
Leave the stench of a stagnant mind and body behind. It’s time to evolve, and it’s time to grow.
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