Guest Post by Tyla Midboe
Tyla has grown in some very real and inspiring ways over the last few years.
I had the pleasure of coaching Tyla in the beginning of her journey, so I am privileged to see much of this growth first hand.
In this article she shows real bravery by speaking on some tough personal issues that I know many others can relate to.
In this piece Tyla shows us how she faced her struggles head on and ended p dominating hr life through fitness.
Before we dive in, here's a little bit about Tyla, and where you can find more of her work.
"I'm Tyla ~ health conscious chef, writer, keeper of binkies, bottles and play things ~ I'm building lives and chasing dreams."
You an find more of Tyla's work here on her blog.
Enter Tyla with Calming the Storm: Choosing Life and Health
I have always struggled with anxiety to some degree but also always managed to keep it under control.
Two and a half years ago I broke, mentally. For almost three months I barely got out of bed unless it was to go the doctors. There were times where my husband had to spoon feed me and carry me to the bathroom because my fears had paralyzed me. After that, if we went out, we didn’t stay out long and I generally had a pill or two to pop just so I could get through the evening without breaking down.
My husband sounds like a saint up there, and he pretty much is. He wasn't able to help with the mental aspect of it though. Unfortunately it’s not something people without anxiety can really understand and you can’t blame someone for not truly understanding something they haven’t experienced.
Regardless, I knew in my soul that I couldn’t live that way. My children and husband needed more than I was giving and so, I fixed myself. Realizing that my husband truly couldn’t help me, he could only support me in my efforts and I couldn’t expect him to fix me, I took control.
I transferred from a sedative to a long term medication that not only helped with my anxiety but it also helped with the debilitating migraines that were causing a lot of my anxiety. From there, once I got the pain and anxiety under control, I decided to take charge of my life.
Not only was I never going to go back to those months, but I was going to live a pain AND pill free life.
Enter a couple more saints: Josh and Mitch.
Josh was my grandmother’s chiropractor. He helped me find ways to manipulate my own spine and neck, ways to stretch certain muscles to ease the tension that built into migraines.
With his help I was off of my medications within 3 weeks. My doctor actually had his nurse call me to see if I was coming in one week when it had been 2 weeks since my last visit… that’s how often I was seeing him.
I did go in. He sat me down and gently asked me how I was and I was able to answer, “I’m great!” for the first time in the 8 months since my meltdown. He was skeptical when I told him I was receiving chiropractic care but I was very blunt when I replied that I refused to live my life dependent on medication to keep me sane.
Chiropractic care can only take you so far though and I knew I needed to do more than just take care of my spine and posture.
Here’s where Mitch comes in. In my 25 years at that point I had joined several gyms, going once or twice before my momentum flat lined. I knew that while I didn’t have the money to go to a gym, hire a personal trainer and pay someone to watch my kids, I would never motivate myself to get in shape.
I Googled online personal training, found a website that had multiple trainers available, with the know how to help you workout from home and I grabbed the first one that caught my eye. It also helps that they were running a special for only $60 a month.
I signed up and did my survey. I lied about my weight because I was embarrassed and deep down I didn’t think I would really follow through on this either.
The very first day though I got a call from one of the trainers and was asked if I had started yet. I replied no and he said he would check back the next day. He did check back, much to my surprise, and I had to say, “no” again. That was HARD. Someone was holding me accountable for my actions and it hurt. It hurt the place inside me that wanted to do more but felt that I couldn’t and so, simply because I didn’t want to be faced with answering that question again and feeling bad about it, I did my first workout.
After the first couple of weeks the interaction with that first trainer fizzled out and my journey with Mitch started.
I still had anxiety, but he was an EMT AND a trainer which to me in my novice stage was code for “doctor and God” all rolled up in one. He was just there. He answered every question I had quickly yet carefully. He helped me reduce my anxiety by showing me that ultimately, what I was doing for my body was supposed to relieve stress and that if it was causing stress, I was doing it wrong.
He walked me through dieting and taught me to not starve myself, that there is no such thing as “Bad” food if you are buying quality food and using moderation. He, along with my husband and family and friends who supported me, inspired a passion for health and liveliness in me. That is priceless to someone who at one point wasn’t able to overcome her fears enough to get out of bed.
My journey has been a long one. Maybe not to some, but to me it definitely has been.
I’ve given birth to another child, and I moved hours away from all of my family and friends.
Through it all though, that passion has only grown. I am still pill free, I can work through my pain when I have it and best of all my anxiety does not cripple or define me anymore.
I’m well on my way to becoming a personal trainer myself and am so excited for the life and the knowledge that will bring me.
If I can help even one person, do more and become more than they ever thought was possible, I will call my journey a success.
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