I usually take a little time on Sunday evenings to catch up on messages and questions before the start of the week. This weekend while I was doing this I had a thought regarding priorities.
This wasn't brought on by any one question in particular, but more a general theme. This may not even apply to you, but if it does, I hope it is helpful.
A lot of times when we are talking about our fitness goals and accomplishing them, we make sure to stress the importance of accomplishing these goals. Things like increased confidence, longer life spans, more energy in order to keep up with the kids, etc gets brought up in order to relate how these fitness goals can positively affect what really matters to you.
I feel like somewhere along the line these priorities get mish mashed and even flipped around. The fitness goal takes a higher ranking spot in the hierarchy than it should.
This may seem odd coming from someone who makes a living coaching fitness, but the honest truth is, training and nutrition are suppose to enhance the things in your life that really matter, not become a rivaling priority with them.
Here is what I DON'T mean by this: I don't mean you shouldn't strive to set aside time to train, and I don't mean you shouldn't meal prep and eat quality foods. I also don't mean your fitness goals shouldn't be held in a high priority.
What I am talking about is the mental energy spent on fitness should not be greater than that spent on family, friends, loved ones, and living a happy life.
Sometimes when we mess up our diet or go 10 days without training we come down HARD on ourselves. We treat it like its a really impactful failure and ends up draining entirely too much of our mental and emotional energy that could have been spent on important people and things.
If you find training and nutrition is creeping a little too high up the totem pole of priorities, it is important to reevaluate your priorities in general.
How important is hitting your macros vs your loved ones birthday? Or a family emergency? Or seeing your all time favorite artist perform for the first time? Or a BBQ with old friends?
The truth is, it isn't remotely close. The other side of the coin is this; hitting your macros, hitting your workouts etc is going to enhance every other aspect of your life.
So I am not saying that by reevaluating our priorities we should take a loosey goose approach to our fitness. The contrary actually.
Once you put fitness in its proper place in the hierarchy, you will find yourself executing like you've never executed before.
You have lost your fear of failing, because every detail isn't worth stressing over. With that loss of fear, you will stop sabotaging yourself (yes, we all do this subconsciously).
It will be easier for you to see the positive changes you are making which will breed more positive changes. The opposite is true if you're constantly focusing on the places you fall short.
If you slide off track for a day because you had some college friends crash your house with a case of beer, you will actually ENJOY the valuable experience and REFOCUS that much easier once the experience is over.
If you're beating yourself up over a few missed calorie days all you are doing is prolonging the process of refocusing and providing a negative experience for yourself.
So if you find yourself in a dark, negative place regarding your fitness and nutrition, reevaluate your priorities and put fitness in its rightful spot. Remember that fitness is here to enhance all of your other aspects of life that REALLY matter, not replace them.