When I was younger, I used to shit on anyone with a nice car.
"Daddy probably bought it." I'd tell myself.
"Why would you waste money on a depreciating asset?"
Who was I kidding?
I WANTED those cars. But I pretended I didn't because I wasn't able to have them. Shitting on them was just a way to protect my young, fragile ego.
Silently, I compared myself to those car owners, and I didn't like how I measured up.
To be fair, I didn't know a single thing about them.
I didn't know what they did for a living, how they got there, who helped them (or didn't help them). For all I knew, they were in debt up to their eyeballs. Or maybe they bought the car with a sack of cash with a green dollar sign on it.
The point is, comparing your progress to other's is a frail activity, and it sucks the life force out of you. What's worse, it's not even a fair or accurate comparison.
You don't know a single thing about them (even if you think you do), and nothing about their story is relevant to you.
But yet, every time we see someone losing more fat than us, or building more muscle, we can't help but wonder why we aren't keeping up.
This pointless game is the cause of a lot of frustration, stagnation, and failure. If you want to take your progress as far as you can, this is a habit that should be dropped today.
There are only two things you should ever compare yourself to.
Your "Ideal Self"
Your ideal isn't a real person, since it's likely no one will ever live up to this standard. Your ideal is you, minus all your bad habits and destructive patterns.
Basically, it's the best possible version of you that you can dream up.
This 'ideal you' may be ripped, muscular, confident, and insanely attractive. Or it may be strong, healthy, athletic, and a positive force in the community.
It's up to you, and you probably have an image of your 'ideal' somewhere in your mind already.
This is your long-range target. It's the goal that inspires you, scares you, and makes you feel a little audacious when people ask you about it.
Set your sights on this goal, and strive to get closer to it every day.
You, From Yesterday
What could be a more fair and accurate comparison than this?
No one else has had the same history, genetics, upbringing, experiences, and challenges as you.
But 'you from yesterday' has, and that's your mark to beat.
Your goal is to be 1% better than you were the day before, in some way.
And as these 1% improvements compound over time, you move closer and closer to your ideal self.
How to use these two points of comparison together?
Think of 'your ideal self' as the top of the mountain, and 'you from yesterday' as your next step.
One's your life-long pursuit, the other is a target you'll knock down today.
This will keep your energy directed and focused where it matters
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