On Sunday, I love making a mug of coffee, sitting down at the computer and writing. I find it incredibly theraputic, and today’s post was especially so.
Today I wrote the 10th chapter in my series I call The Cowboy Adventures of a Jacked Canadian Hipster.
This series is my personal story. My defeats, victories, and development as a human being. I write them because it’s like therapy, but I also know that there are other people who face similar challenges. If my story helps just one person, I’m over the moon.
As I wrote today’s post, I recalled a time 4 years ago when I moved 3500 km across Canada to work in Alberta as an Oilfield Firefighter.
I was living in a shitty motel and waiting for my boss to call me out to the fire station (which later turned out to be a farm in the middle of no where. More on that in the post) so I could get to work.
That call came one evening at 8 p.m. So I fired up the GPS and hit the road.
30 minutes down the highway the city lights disappeared behind me. As I drove into the darkness my GPS flipped out. It started rerouting, and after a few minutes and several retries, it never found it’s route.
I rely heavily on my GPS, and as a result I don’t pay close enough attention to my surroundings.
I called my boss, sheepish and embarrassed, to let him know I was lost.
“Where are you now?” he asked. “I’ll direct you from there.”
I admitted, I had no idea where I was. I didn’t even know which highway I was on.
He lit me up, swearing, calling me names.
And the first thing my mind did was back up what he was saying by referencing my past failures.
I said to myself, “You know, you always were a shitty student. You’ve been broke your whole life. You got drunk and crashed your car, and lost your job as a result.
It’s true. You’re just an idiot, bumbling through life.”
Guys, this is it.
I referenced why I was a failure by bringing up examples from my past. I didn’t do it methodically and consciously. It was automatic.
And that’s why most people aren’t doing the things they need to do to accomplish their goals. Even if they know exactly what they need to do.
See, when we picture our goals, and the actions we need to get there, our mind tries to protect us from pain, embarrassment, and failure by reminding us of our past failures and how uncomfortable they are.
This is why most people never get started. And if they do, they can’t keep it up. Fighting that internal resistance is exhausting, and is a fight you can’t win.
This is how you change that:
When you picture your goals, observe as your mind shows you all the reasons you’ll fail.
Then replace those with reasons why you will succeed.
Real reasons. Don’t bullshit yourself.
Think about attributes you possess that will help you succeed. Remember moments in your life when you were successful. Create so much evidence that you can accomplish your goal that your success becomes a no-brainer.
Your goal is like a table top without legs.
Every time you add a reference point that proves you'll succeed, you add a leg to that table.
Literally giving your goal legs to stand on.
And this gives you the courage to take on your goals, do what you need to do without sabotaging your efforts.
You want to be lean and strong. You want the confidence to wear what you want and feel amazing in it (or out of it).
You know what you need to do to get there.
But you never take action (or maintain it) because of crippling self doubt.
Instead of allowing yourself to focus on all the reasons you may fail, force yourself to see why you will succeed.
And recite those every single day.
P.S. If you would like to checkout today’s post, you can find it below.
Cowboy Adventures of a Jacked Canadian Hipster: Part 10 (Intro the Darkness)
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